The Mystery of Becoming the Woman You Want to Be
An Invitation
You know that ache.
That quiet, persistent whisper in the night—the one that says, “There has to be more for a girl like me.”
Maybe you’ve felt it in church pews where your story never gets told, or in classrooms and bathrooms and beauty aisles where your reflection seems invisible. Maybe you’ve spent too long searching for faces like yours in magazines, movies, or the platforms of those called “role models”—and left every page and pixel feeling like a secret guest in your own story.
Welcome, beloved.
This is not an accident.
There’s a reason the world sometimes feels allergic to your glow.
The Hidden Ache
Let me tell you a secret the world tries hard to bury:
Every woman who shakes the kingdom feels a little bit out of place before she’s crowned.
You’re not just missing “representation.” You’re longing for recognition—holy recognition.
You’re not just wishing to see girls who look like you. You’re hoping for a world where your features are celebrated, not just tolerated. Where “softness” is strength. Where being “too much” is actually just being enough—in the language of heaven.
Maybe you’ve learned to shrink your presence, to blend, to code-switch, to serve without being seen. You’ve been told to “tone it down,” to wait your turn, to smooth your voice and soften your power.
But inside you, there’s a sacred ache.
A mystery.
The Invitation to Mystery
The Academy Sparkle isn’t just a school.
It’s an invitation to the other side—the kingdom side.
It’s a secret room where daughters who never quite fit the “mainstream” step into their true, shimmering story.
Here, we don’t ask you to leave parts of yourself at the door.
We don’t hide your glow or hush your song.
We open the vault of holy mysteries—the unseen, uncelebrated, sometimes unwelcome side of being a woman of God, in full color.
And yes, I know you’re tired of pep talks that fade by Monday.
You need more than Instagram “affirmations.”
You need answers. Strategies.
And maybe—just maybe—a little warning about what happens if you settle for less.
What No One Told You About Being “That Girl”
Let me whisper a secret that the world would rather you never hear:
You were never meant to blend in.
Not in beauty aisles, not in boardrooms, not in the back row of church.
Not in love, or ministry, or your wildest, holiest dreams.
The ache you feel is your invitation.
It’s God’s mysterious way of saying,
“You don’t belong because you were never meant to belong to them.
You were meant to belong to Me.”
But here’s the warning, darling—one only a loving, angelic friend would dare to say:
If you keep shrinking, you risk missing your own miracle.
If you keep comparing, you’ll never see the holy art in your own reflection.
If you stay silent, the room never gets to hear the song you carry.
If you settle for the world’s version of “pretty,” “good,” or “enough,”
you’ll always feel unfinished, unseen, uncrowned.
There is a mystery to becoming a Kingdom Shaker.
And it’s not for the faint of heart.
But it is for you.
The Other Side: A Warning (and a Promise)
My dearest friend, I won’t lie.
There’s another side to all this—the side where you settle.
Where you keep your glory hidden, and your softness hardened.
Where you hustle to belong, only to feel more alone.
I’ve watched too many girls waste years trying to be what they were never designed to be: invisible, agreeable, palatable, “good enough.”
Don’t let that be your story.
If you trade your God-given mystery for approval, you’ll never see the wonder He wrote in you.
If you shrink your glow, the world grows colder.
If you deny your boundaries, you’ll dry up inside.
But—if you step into the mystery…
If you say yes to the Academy Sparkle (to the secret society of the crowned, to the girls who carry holy glow)—
everything changes.
The Invitation
You are not alone.
There is a table here, a vault of stories, a secret society for every girl who wondered if she’d ever fit the mold—only to discover she was born to break it.
Will you answer the invitation?
Will you let the ache become your anthem?
Will you become the Kingdom Shaker you were always meant to be?
This is your open door.
Step into the Mystery.
Unveil your Crown.
If something here stirred your spirit—
You’re already halfway to the hidden path.
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1. Not feeling represented in beauty
2. Struggling to find role models who look like me
3. Wanting to embrace my natural features
4. Wishing for true cultural celebration
5. Not knowing how to walk in confidence
6. Never seeing “girls like me” in the spotlight
7. Afraid to speak up in a room full of others
8. Balancing softness with strength
9. Worrying I’m “too much” for some people
10. Feeling unseen in mainstream spaces
11. Struggling to find my authentic style
12. Comparing my hair and skin to others
13. Wanting to love my own reflection
14. Feeling caught between cultures
15. Not knowing how to set boundaries
16. Pressure to code-switch
17. Wishing my femininity was celebrated
18. Feeling invisible in church spaces
19. Struggling to be “the good girl” and still feel seen
20. Navigating colorism and texturism
21. Being told to “tone it down”
22. Always giving, rarely receiving
23. Wanting to feel soft, not hard
24. Feeling “not enough” as a woman of color
25. Not seeing diverse examples of Christian femininity
26. Wanting to glow from the inside out
27. Worrying about being “too strong” for love
28. Struggling to be gentle in a tough world
29. Feeling overlooked for leadership
30. Wishing for sisterhood that gets me
31. Noticing a lack of mentorship
32. Wanting to reclaim my voice
33. Feeling out of place in beauty standards
34. Questioning if I can really “level up”
35. Not feeling worthy of luxury
36. Wishing my culture was celebrated, not just tolerated
37. Feeling pressure to perform
38. Not knowing how to access softness
39. Tired of being seen as “the help”
40. Not being called “beautiful” enough
41. Craving rooms where my magic is normal
42. Unsure how to let my guard down
43. Worrying I’m not “that girl”
44. Wanting to embrace faith without judgment
45. Feeling unseen by other Black women
46. Tired of always having to “show up strong”
47. Wanting to embrace vulnerability
48. Not knowing how to ask for help
49. Wishing for beauty that feels authentic
50. Tired of others questioning my softness
51. Not fitting the “expected” mold
52. Struggling with imposter syndrome
53. Feeling left out of Christian “girl” movements
54. Wanting to embody grace
55. Tired of masking my truth
56. Craving spaces where I belong
57. Wanting my daughters to feel beautiful
58. Not seeing my family reflected in media
59. Struggling to find gentle mentors
60. Wishing for real, lasting glow-ups
61. Wanting to “level up” without losing myself
62. Unsure how to deal with microaggressions
63. Wishing for affirmations that speak to me
64. Tired of being called intimidating
65. Not feeling “light enough” or “dark enough”
66. Wanting to be cherished for my culture
67. Not seeing Christian girls like me celebrated
68. Worrying about how faith fits my identity
69. Tired of explaining myself
70. Wanting to rest without guilt
71. Not feeling “safe” to be soft
72. Craving friendships without competition
73. Feeling boxed in by stereotypes
74. Wanting to shine in my own lane
75. Unsure how to access abundance
76. Struggling with self-acceptance
77. Tired of shrinking to fit in
78. Wishing for luxury without shame
79. Afraid to be my authentic self at church
80. Not feeling protected
81. Wishing my femininity wasn’t policed
82. Tired of “strong Black woman” pressure
83. Wanting to celebrate my wins
84. Feeling overlooked in workspaces
85. Afraid to own my ambition
86. Not feeling “churchy” enough
87. Wanting to redefine beauty for myself
88. Not seeing faith leaders who look like me
89. Craving real connections
90. Tired of spiritual gaslighting
91. Struggling to find my tribe
92. Wanting to raise girls who love their skin
93. Afraid of standing out
94. Not knowing how to nurture my inner girl
95. Struggling with generational expectations
96. Wishing for gentleness in relationships
97. Tired of always fighting for a seat
98. Not feeling “soft life” is for me
99. Wishing I had more options
100. Wanting to be chosen, not tokenized
101. Struggling with old wounds
102. Wanting to love my natural hair
103. Worrying about how others see my success
104. Not feeling worthy of rest
105. Wishing I could say “no”
106. Feeling called to more, but unsure how
107. Wishing for a community that celebrates all of me
108. Tired of low-key competition
109. Struggling with comparison
110. Not feeling like the “it girl”
111. Wishing to step into my calling
112. Wanting to feel sacred, not just cute
113. Unsure how to own my story
114. Wanting to be celebrated, not tolerated
115. Struggling with boundaries in family
116. Wishing for “big sister” energy
117. Tired of playing small
118. Craving a loving spiritual circle
119. Feeling “othered”
120. Wishing I saw myself in devotional books
121. Not feeling confident with natural beauty
123. Wishing for guidance on grace and grit
124. Not knowing how to teach my daughter self-love
125. Struggling to heal my inner child
126. Wanting to be loved for my mind and spirit
127. Tired of surface-level encouragement
128. Craving deep, affirming friendship
129. Not feeling celebrated in my church
130. Wishing to dress for me, not for approval
131. Tired of others minimizing my pain
132. Not knowing how to be soft without being seen as weak
133. Struggling with mom guilt
134. Wanting my daughter to own her power
135. Tired of hiding behind humor
136. Not feeling my beauty fits in
137. Wishing to pray boldly
138. Wanting my joy to be seen as valid
139. Not knowing how to rest without anxiety
140. Struggling to find beauty products for me
141. Wishing I was more outgoing
142. Not feeling my friendships are supportive
143. Wanting my daughter to love her voice
144. Wishing for spaces to heal
145. Feeling like I must always be “on”
146. Tired of defending my softness
147. Wishing to embrace luxury and faith
148. Not feeling “invited” to the table
149. Wanting my family’s stories celebrated
150. Wishing for more softness in my marriage
151. Not feeling like I can take up space
152. Struggling with being overlooked in ministry
153. Wishing for intergenerational healing
154. Tired of apologizing for my presence
155. Wanting to see more Black/POC role models
156. Not feeling included in women’s groups
157. Wishing to heal my relationship with femininity
158. Wanting a guide for “becoming her”
159. Not knowing how to nurture my glow
160. Tired of self-doubt
161. Craving deep worship experiences
162. Not feeling my spiritual practices are valued
163. Wishing to embrace rest as resistance
164. Wanting to speak life into others
165. Not knowing how to create legacy
166. Tired of always being the strong friend
167. Wishing for joy that lasts
168. Wanting to live abundantly
169. Struggling to find joy in the everyday
170. Not feeling my needs matter
171. Wishing to rewrite my narrative
172. Wanting my daughter to be bold
173. Not feeling heard in faith spaces
174. Craving true rest
175. Tired of hustle culture
176. Wanting my story to inspire
177. Not knowing how to ask for help
178. Wanting to be remembered
179. Craving overflow, not overwhelm
180. Not feeling “enough” in my own skin
181. Wanting a life of gentle confidence
182. Wishing to pass down peace, not pain
183. Wanting to love out loud
184. Not feeling safe to be emotional
185. Wanting my softness seen as strength
186. Wishing for spiritual and cultural wholeness
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